Greed

Greed - is the inordinate desire to possess wealth, goods, or objects of abstract value with the intention to keep it for one's self, far beyond the dictates of basic survival and comfort. It is applied to a markedly high desire for and pursuit of wealth, status, and power.


What a powerful word...What a horrible way to live...and family seems to be the worst culprit.  Greed destroy's family's, tares them apart, and pits one against another.  Why do people have the desire to be in control of everything?  Why do people feel the need to hurt others through greed?  


Our family, once was a tight knit unit.  Sunday dinners at my grandmothers and  hours playing with my cousins in the basement.  I have so many fond memories of my childhood at my grandmothers.  The fireplace stoked by my grandfather. Us 7 kids, hopping around on our bouncy balls.  We would do this every Sunday.  When we would leave, my grandmother would hand out a pack of gum to each of us.  Oh, the good old days.  Now our family is in pieces, torn apart by greed and the desire to control it all.


Without going into detail, possessions have somehow overshadowed what is important.  Possessions that belong to no one but my grandmother.  As my grandmother is laying in Long Term Care,  her family,  at the moment, is ripping her house apart.  Fighting over who gets what and when.  One has all the power and the other has nothing...not even a key to enter the house.  Who does this?  She is still alive!  When has it gone to far?


I can't imagine what if feels like for my grandmother laying in her little corner in Long Term Care.  I have talked to her a few times today and she is so depressed.  She knows she will never go home.  She knows her house is being taken apart, she knows this is how she is going to live the remainder of her life.  See, her house needs to be sold to pay for her care.  So the contents must be dispersed.  My grandmother has allotted who gets what...but that does not stop the greed.  Why would something think they should get something over someone else?  Obviously, my grandmother has taken the time to chose who she wants her possessions to go to.  But should this not be done after she is gone?  It seems so cruel and so heartless to fight over a living person's things.


There are some things that would mean a great deal to me, but only if she wanted me to have them.  Like her Scategories game.  My cousin Allison and I, used to play this game with Nana for hours.  We would laugh at the craziness.  We would eat popcorn, play the game, and just have fun.  That is how I want to remember my grandmother.  


My family has taught me something very valuable.  There are some people I NEVER want to be like.  I will never, under any circumstances pit my children against each other.  I will NEVER let greed control me.  I will NEVER fight for something that I have no right to.  I have seem my family torn apart over the stupidest thing.  I have witnessed horrible words, actions, and events unfold before death has even occurred.  I think it is time for people to grow up and to remember what is important.  That someday soon, the Matriarch of our family will be gone.  There will not be anymore phone calls, visits or memories to be made.  We will only live on the memories we have left, and I refuse to have them be soured by greed. 


I wish certain family members would grow up and cherish the time left with Nana.  Possessions are just possessions, my grandmother is a LIFE!  




Hating family dynamics in Pickford, 


Shelby